Last week, I received an email from Jasmine* who had found my post. Jasmine lives on the East Coast with her husband, Ken* and their daughter, Nina*. We exchanged several emails and soon discovered we have similar thoughts and philosophies regarding open embryo adoption and how we would like to handle the situation. Jasmine sent photos of her family. And as soon as I saw them, I knew.
I knew that they are the right family for our embryos. Many people do not understand my “feelings” but 9 times out of 10, my gut instinct is correct and whatever strange prediction I have, comes true. This was one of those times. I just knew.
Jasmine reminds me a lot of myself. She is proactive and quickly started the ball rolling (contacting the clinic, finding an attorney) to accomplish tasks that we need to pursue before this dream can become a reality. We’ve talked about how we will handle this situation with any potential children that may result from the embryos. We’ve talked about how we will handle it with our current children. We’ve discussed how open we want the adoption to be and what we’ll be willing to do when the children are older. We’ve all thought about the impact this will have on our families. And I feel 100% comfortable. Because just through Jasmine’s words, I know that her ultimate goal is the same as mine — to have happy, healthy children.
It truly is phenomenal to see our infertility journey come full circle. From struggling to become pregnant ourselves and researching every option — to 5 IVF cycles to produce Bo and that 1 perfect cycle to produce the girls — and now with three embryos left to be able to help another family to create a sibling (or 2, or 3!) for their miracle daughter. It’s amazing. I’m reminded every day of what a wonderful gift we’ve been given and how hard we worked for our children. To be able to help another family is proof to me, yet again, that this was the path we were meant to travel down. Infertility isn’t something I’d wish on my worst enemy but it’s changed my life. And many of those changes have been positive.
I do hope to share some of this journey here with you. Jasmine and Ken have agreed to allow me to blog about our experience using pseudonymous for their family. We are still early in the process but I have talked to my clinic and they are researching the FDA regulations for human tissues that we will need and Jasmine has contacted a lawyer who specializes in reproductive issues to begin drafting the needed paperwork for this type of an open adoption.
So here we go…
My gut says this is going to work.
*Names have been changed to protect the privacy of the recipient family.