It’s amazing how quickly your life can change. How the days that are really significant in your life sometimes start out as the most mundane.
I had finally let my guard down and resigned myself to the fact that we would be staying in Olney for awhile longer. I knew Mike had some applications that were still out but I’d focused on preparing our current house for the twins. We’d planned a vacation. And now, the twins won’t be coming home here and the vacation may very well be a pipe dream for the next year and a half.
Yesterday afternoon, at about 1:15, as I was throwing dinner together in the crock-pot, my cell phone rang. It was Mike. He had called earlier in the morning with a random question, so I didn’t think much of it.
“Hey, what’s up?”
“So, what do you think about living in Peru?” Mike said.
“Oh my God. You got it.”
I’m pretty sure my heart skipped a beat. We’ve been waiting over a year and a half for this news and now, just as I’ve made peace with being here for a little while longer, the rug is pulled out from under me.
Don’t get me wrong — I’m excited — I am. I know how positive this is in so many ways for my family. And honestly, for some odd reason, this strange town in central Illinois that I’ve now Googled even more than “twins after infertility” feels like the right place for us. But at the same time, I’m scared out of my mind about all that we have to do and the changes that will face in the months ahead. Moving at 20 odd weeks pregnant with twins isn’t exactly going to be easy. Then throw an 18 month old and my mom into the picture… and well, these next few months will be interesting…
1. The new job is in Peru (near Starved Rock where we were married). It is a promotion that is several steps above Mike’s current job. He is currently a CR (Claims Representative) and will now be an OS (Operations Supervisor), skipping the TE (Technical Expert) position (what he did in Champaign) and the MSS (no idea what this means) positions. That is good news for us.
2. Because the job is a promotion, the government will buy our current house and help us to relocate. We don’t have all of the details regarding this yet, but hopefully we will have them soon and can start the process.
3. From my research, it appears we will be able to find a house within 10 minutes of Mike’s work so we will also be saving a lot of money in gas due to the much shorter commute. We will be saving thousands of dollars a year!!
4. Mike will have significantly more time at home (2 hours a day adds up fast!) due to lack of said commute.
5. Peru is an hour and a half from Mike’s parents.
6. Peru is an hour and a half from Peoria and an hour and 15 minutes from Bloomington The area is more urban than Olney with sit down chain restaurants like Red Lobster and Applebee’s and even a Target (woohoo!) but not a big city or suburbia (hence, Mom and I should both feel comfortable driving and getting around there).
7. Most likely, we’ll be able to purchase a house that will hold all of us comfortably. I may even have an office… That is really exciting to me!
1. It is around 3 1/2 hours from Olney. Which isn’t unreasonable and I will be able to visit fairly often. However, twin pregnancy and subsequent 3 under 2 will probably limit my visits for the next year or so. All Olney friends are welcome to come visit us any time. We’ll hopefully have room for you.
2. My mom. I called mom immediately after Mike called me. I’m hopeful she’ll move there, as I feel like it will be a great location for all of us (not super city like which she has always been opposed to) but yet big enough that there might actually be something to do every now and again. I’m worried about her reaction and response to this — despite the fact that we’ve been very clear since before we were even married that this was our plan of action, I don’t think Mom ever really thought it would happen.
3. All of the steps that it will take to move there and become settled. I’ve already found a few houses to look at and we will hopefully be doing that this weekend. I’ll be calling the bank today to discuss mortgages. Then there is the physical moving — ugh. And then fixing up the new house and preparing it for Bo and the twins. Ugh.
4. Finding a new doctor(s) and new health insurance. One thing I have to figure out rather quickly is finding a new OB in the area. We will be able to change health insurance (which is a good thing as the only reason we are on our current insurance was for IVF coverage). I am hoping to see an OB in Peoria, since it is the closest hospital with a NICU. Any recommendations would be highly appreciated! Bo will also need a new pediatrician as he is due for his 18 month appointment. I am hoping to find a pediatrician locally in the LaSalle/Peru area.
5. I am very disappointed because we were suppose to leave for Florida on Friday, but the vacation plans have been scrapped. We were suppose to be in Florida until June 14 but Mike is set to start the new job on June 22 and will be in Bloomington for meetings June 16-18. We need to find a house and at least start that process. It is going to be a long while before we have the opportunity to travel again. I’m nearing the end of my travelability during this pregnancy and during the first year with twins I doubt if we are going to be up for a trip across the country.
It feels like the right place for us, for now. And I know that everything happens for a reason, so I’m trying to go with the flow (which I am very bad at)… but there is just so much to think about, plan, and do.
This is the big news that I tortured everyone on Facebook and Twitter with yesterday. Stay tuned to the blog/twitter for updates if you’re interested in watching me lose my mind while pregnant and moving!