I mustered up the courage today and called Dr. J’s office. I have been meaning to do it since Bo was born to give them the statistics they will need regarding his birth and to ask the big question:
When can we start trying again?
There are many differing opinions regarding when it is okay to start trying for baby number 2. Dr. W, my OB, suggests waiting a year. One of my good friends told me that the ideal time for a woman’s body is 18 months.
When I talked to Dr. J’s nurse she said, “As soon as the lining is built back up in your uterus.” Hum… interesting. So I specifically asked if she thought it would be okay for us to start trying again in May and she said she didn’t see any reason why we couldn’t.
So, when do we start trying again? Do we start trying again in May and hope that it doesn’t take us another 3 years? Do I wait until Bo is a year? What about breastfeeding? Do we wait so that if it does work our children aren’t so close together? What is the ideal spacing to have between children? Not that we really have any control over when it will work anyway…
And then there is the “move” that is looming. Will we be moving in May? Will Mike’s new position have IVF coverage? Should I start earlier to use my last two IVF attempts under our current insurance? Should I get a job at Kinkos when we move instead of teaching to get IVF insurance? Agh.
The thoughts… the questions… (Any advice is greatly appreciated.)
The only thing I know for sure at this point — I want Bo to have a sibling. Someway, somehow. I’m an only child and it is hard. There is lots of pressure. Lots of responsibility. I want to save him from that if there is anyway that I can. I can’t believe I am willing to go through IVF hell again — but really, it isn’t about me. It’s about Bo. It’s about doing everything I can to make sure he has a good life — and I know that having a sibling is something I desperately want him to have.
